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Tuesday, 08 September 2009

  • Lydia

    I've never claimed to fully understand my children.  I knew, with them being twins, that they would likely have a special bond, oftentimes absorbed in their own special world, speaking their own special language.  And, as expected, that is the case.  They've had a special connection even since they were babies.  The day they both could crawl, they took off down the hall on their own little adventure, giggles abounding.  As they've gotten older, their special bubble has grown to encompass imaginary play involving cats in the attic, cooking food in their "Old McDonald's", using bobby pins to unlock their doors at "work", and running through the house pretending they are being chased by a monster, at times one of them playing the role of said monster.  One part of their play that stands out more than the others, though, is them calling one another "Lydia".  It started months ago, I can't even remember the exact moment.  But for quite some time now, I'll hear them playing or watch them racing through the house saying, "Come here, Lydia!  Hurry or the monster is going to get you!"  Or, "I said come here, Lydia.  You need to mind or your mommy is going to give you a spankin'!"  And, "Where are you, Lydia?  We need to get ready to go to the store."  I know they aren't referring to an imaginary friend because they are always referring to one another.  As far as the name is concerned, I have two explanations.  1.) Their Grana –my stepmom—is named Lydia.  We've always tried to refer to grandparents as their assigned name, especially when the girls were younger and they were still learning.  As the girls got older, if we slipped and I called Daddy, Jeff, Cadie would give me a stern look and say, "Don't say Jeff, say Da-ddy."  There must have been a few instances the girls heard Grana referred to as Lydia, because they quickly learned that was her "real" name.  2.)  The girls have a cousin named Lydia.  I'm more inclined to go with the former rather than the latter because they have only spent time with their cousin on two or three occasions and it's been almost two years.  I think they must have latched onto Lydia's name because they rarely hear anyone refer to their Grandma –Jeff's mom—or Nana –my mom- by their first names.  So, it all comes down to this.  I blame Poppy –my dad—because he's terrible with names.  He oftentimes refers to Lydia by her first name and even went through a stint of calling her "Granny" (which she loved...).  Madeline even took to calling her Granny, with a glint of mischief in her eye.  Regardless, though, of what name they call one another, I always smile and chuckle because I cherish the bond they have with one another; it's a special one.

Thursday, 20 August 2009

  • Confirmation

    I told you a couple months back about visiting Saint Francis to look through the girls' medical records in hopes of finding information to help us get approved for new insurance.  Also, as part of this process, I wrote a letter to Cadie's neurologist, Dr. Benner, asking him to draft a letter explaining that Cadie no long has hydrocephalus.  Cadie was released from his care back in July of 2007.  I can remember how relieved we were to never have to see him again.  Not because of him personally; he's an excellent neurologist and surgeon.  He gave Cadie the potential for a future without "hardware" by performing a fairly new surgery.  We were relieved at the possibility of never having to see him again because it would be a testament to Cadie's good health.  When we left, though, neither Jeff nor I was brave enough to ask the question I'm sure we both were thinking of.  If Cadie is released from your care, does that mean she no longer has the potential for hydrocephalus or any other future neurological problems?  We'd already been through so much with the girls, we just didn't have the strength to face another worry, so we did what any parent does in our position who wants to keep their sanity: we shoved the concern deep down in the back of our minds and hoped never to have to think of it again.  When it came time to get new insurance, though, we were forced to face that concern.

    I'm not one to go down without a fight, so when the girls were rejected for coverage, I made it my mission to fight back with everything I had.  In my letter to Dr. Benner I explained that it was our understanding that Cadie had completely recovered and was not at risk for any future problems.  I clarified, though, that we had no intentions of asking him to write a letter stating so if it wasn't the truth.  At least a month passed without a word, so I assumed he was too busy or not interested in responding.  Finally, though, last week we received a letter.  Jeff and I opened it together, anxious and scared to read what it said, more for fear of hearing what we didn't want to hear than not being able to qualify for different health insurance. 

    The first paragraph summarized Cadie's treatment upon birth and Dr. Benner's assessment during her hospital stay and subsequent VAD surgery.  The second paragraph detailed Cadie's follow-up's with Dr. Benner and multiple CT scans as well as their results.

    Finally, that last paragraph answered our question, the one we've silently feared. 

                    "It is felt at this time that she (Cadie) had a transient hydrocephalus from her intraventricular hemorrhage, which has cleared.  She is not at any risk for redevelopment of hydrocephalus or other associated neurologic problems."

    After reading that final sentence, I looked up at Jeff, tears in his eyes, and I knew he felt the same relief that I felt.  It's normal for parents to worry for their children, but at least now we can worry about the everyday things instead.  Even if this letter doesn't help our application to be approved, I'm so glad that we tried again because this situation forced us to face a fear.  And, praise God, it's the answer we wanted!

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  • I'm the proud mama of twin 3 year old girls, Cadie & Maddie. I've been married to my amazing husband, Jeff, for nearly eight years. We're a happy, little family of four. I stay home with the girls during the day, but also own a photography business, Cadeline Photography.

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